tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-456183171615492080.post8795701479152627038..comments2023-04-12T04:44:09.110-07:00Comments on I would like to call it beautiful: Understanding RelationshipsShelbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03052248659554320006noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-456183171615492080.post-29998345758514751762011-11-19T08:28:32.121-08:002011-11-19T08:28:32.121-08:00Thank you for your comment. I do get what you are ...Thank you for your comment. I do get what you are saying. That isn't exactly what I ment thouhg. I am not saying you should stay with everyone you ever date for that long, just the people that you think you would want to marry. I 100% agree with being friends first. It helps a lot, but that just doesn't work for everyone. I am just saying if you really want to marry someone, and you think you love them more than anything, stick it out a little longer just to make sure. Like I said the divorce rate is outrageous! People just seem to rush into things when they don't need to. If you are willing to spend the rest of your life with this person, why not wait a couple months longer to make sure it is the real deal. I can't tell you how many times I have heard from people "My relationship is soo amazing. We never fight!" I am just like, "Well what do you have to fight about? You have known each other for 3 months?" I mean nobody is exactly alike, and sooner or later you will have a fight. It just happens. If you can work things out, I think that says a lot about a relationship. The ability to be able to get through the tough times and still love each other. How do people even know if they can get through those times if they have never even had an argument before? I just wish everyone could find that perfect person for them. Divorce is nasty. Waiting isn't the worst thing in the world. <br />Thank you so much for your comment. I must not have explained it very well because that is what I kind of ment. But the starting of a relationship is different for everyone, but I couldn't agree more that it helps when you are friends before!Shelbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03052248659554320006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-456183171615492080.post-47434045590025194002011-11-18T23:18:28.332-08:002011-11-18T23:18:28.332-08:00I see where you are coming from, but I feel I must...I see where you are coming from, but I feel I must disagree about your theories on dating. I understand that crushes happen and sometimes that's the beginning of a relationship with that person, but from my experience I have found that the most successful and, may I say, "real" relationships are formed and grow from a foundation; friendship. My relationship before my current one was, let's be honest, a disaster. I had a crush on this boy in high school and thought I'd see where things went. Yeah, he had some good qualities, but after finding out all of the things he was keeping from me, I was done. There was absolutely no way in hell I was going to stay with someone who was dishonest right from the start. All I'm trying to say is don't waste your time if it's clear that this person is a dead end. Sticking it out can be the stupidest thing you ever do. I look at my parents and it took twenty years for them to realize that the only reason they were together was to make me and my siblings happy. What I got most out of their failed relationship was the knowledge of exactly what I did not want in my marriage.I'm glad that you and your boyfriend have lasted as long as you have, but really look around. You are still young, as you said above. My husband and I were best friends for years before we accidentally fell in love. Neither of us said anything for months, in fear of losing what we had. But knowing that he was always going to be there for me and I was always going to be there for him, I knew that it was a balanced relationship. I will never have to worry about him giving too much or me giving too much. We have our differences but they are the ones that compliment us. Always marry your best friend. Even if it takes only 4 months for you to find him. Give it a try!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com