Sunday, November 13, 2011
Relationships. Such a complicated concept at times. I apologize for this post, but this has been on my mind a lot lately. I promise I am not trying to be judgmental in any way with what I have to say. It is just simply how I feel. If you are touchy about relationships, I suggest you don't read this.
Lately I lot of girls my age have become engaged. I am almost nineteen. I have nothing against getting married young at all. If that is what you want go for it! The thing that I don't understand is how can you marry someone after knowing them only four ish months! It is just unimaginable to me. I simply do not get this. You can't KNOW a person in four months.
I guess when it comes to dating I have a few theories. These theories so far have proven to be true I would say. This is my take on relationships. You start to like a person. There is a six month to one year stage where you are absolutely head-over-heels in love with this person. The can do absolutely no wrong in your eyes. They are the most perfect human being in the entire world. After that six month to a year period, a point hits when you start to realize things you don't like about the person you are "madly in love" with. You don't like a certain type of music they listen, or really random things like that. You start to fight a little bit more, and things aren't always perfect. This is the point were most people break up. I believe that getting past that stage is when you KNOW that you can marry a person. When you realize all the little things about them that drive you crazy, but you love them anyway. THAT is what love is. Love is when you have been through straight crap with a person, but after it is all over or even during you realize you could never be with anyone else. When you are mad at each other you only want to be with that person. You would do anything for them. You will stick with them when things get bad. You stick with them when they have heard times, and they stick with you when you do as well. Loving someone is completely forgetting yourself, and giving all you have to that person.
Why then are people getting married after only a couple months of knowing each other! Is it that hard to just stick it out. If you really love that person wouldn't it be worth it to wait a year or so. What is the harm? With the divorce rate being 50% in the U.S you think people would be a little more cautious. So I say wait just a little while. Try and get past that lovey dovey phase, because I can promise you it does not last forever. It is getting past that and realizing you still love someone when you know it is real. Believe it is not that bad. I have been with the love of my life for almost three years, and I am still so happy. I know we can make it through anything because we have been through everything. I still love him when we fight, and I still love him when he annoys the crap out of me! He is my everything and I know this because of how long we have dated. Really people a couple of months is not long enough to know a person. I am still learning things about Curtis that I never knew. Just try to wait a little longer to make sure it is the real deal. Seriously how could it hurt anything? All it does is solidify your decision to be with someone forever. I want everyone to experience what it is like to really know someone, and be completely confident in marrying someone after you know the stuff that annoys you. So give it a try!